People have a tendency to worry how others think of them. They become careful with their actions and strive to please others just to get their approval. Unfortunately, this is not really healthy and bound to get us in trouble at some point. This is because we start basing our actions on how others prefer. But the good news is that you can actually change your way of thinking with a few steps like the ones below.
Focus on what’s important
Concentrating on what’s more important can help you see the bigger picture, that your role is not the only thing that matters, it’s everyone. This way, you’ll find that the spotlight is not focused on you but to the whole group.
Be true to yourself
Whatever actions you are planning to do, the goals that you are setting for yourself, always prioritize yourself first. Does it follow the rules that you have imposed on yourself? Are you staying true to your core values? What others think doesn’t really matter at this point.
People pay attention to themselves more
If you think that comment your co-worker said about your life is not good, instead of looking at what you’ve done to deserve that remark, consider this: they may not have really given it much thought but just said whatever it is that they have said so the topic can move on to the more pressing matters for them which is about themselves.
Worst case scenario
If you find yourself thinking more about how others see you especially when it comes to your work, personal life, and the like, ask yourself this, “What’s the worst that can happen?”. Being you is what matters.
You know what’s best for you
You are the one who knows what is best for you even when there are plenty of people who are telling you that you should do this and that. The truth is you and you alone are the one who is responsible for your actions, therefore, what others say shouldn’t put a lot of value in your choices unless you know that they are for your own good.
Not everyone will like you
Another thing that you should keep in mind is that not everyone will like you. That is already given. This means that no matter what you do, some will just find issues to pin on you. This is why, you should always do what you think is best in your eyes rather than relying on others.
Trust a few
Even though you should pay attention to what you think is best for you according to your own perspective, it helps to have someone to listen to as well. It’s okay to trust a few people you know you can rely on to guide you with your decisions. Close family and friends will do.
Mind your own
If you really want to get away from paying too much attention to what or how others think of you, the best thing to do is to mind your own business. Don’t ask others what they think of you or your work. It is possible that some will say something negative that can just be because they see you that way. Someone will compliment you with your work if they see that you are doing well.
Don’t attempt to please everyone
Never ever try to please everyone you know. You are going to burn yourself out because of it with nothing to show for after. No matter how hard you work or try to think about others, there will always be someone who will not be pleased.