Making excuses is a bad habit that you need to learn to break as it can be detrimental to your growth. It’s this little voice that tells you to leave your work for another day, or that you can’t do it, and such that you need to silence as it will prevent you from succeeding in life. Can you imagine what it’s like to forever procrastinate because you are afraid of what the results will be? If you are ready to take charge of your life and stop making excuses, here are a few steps that can get you through it.
List down your fears
Start writing down all of your fears and read them to yourself. These fears are the ones that are keeping us from achieving what our heart’s desire. Get to know these fears and tell yourself that you are bigger than they are. Putting a name to these fears by writing them down can actually help reduce their value so you’ll have more confidence that you can get over them.
The lack of direction or goals even is preventing us from making the most out of our lives. Sometimes we set extreme goals that have plenty of room for failure that we end up feeling miserable and unsure of ourselves when we don’t meet it. If you want to set goals, make smaller, achievable goals. Not only will help you achieve them, but you’ll also gain more confidence.
List steps to achieving your goals
If you want to make your plan to achieving your goals more concrete, list down three steps that you are going to use to get it done. An action plan is what you need if you want to reach the goal that you set for yourself.
Mistakes are normal
There is nothing wrong with making mistakes. They are very much part of you as doing the right ones. You see, mistakes are teachers. We learn by experience. Without making mistakes, we will not be able to figure out for ourselves which steps are wrong and which ones are right. Accept them and you’ll see how much better life turns out to be.
Share your plans
If you want someone to hold you accountable for your dreams or your goals, share your plans with someone. You can tell a family member, a relative, or even a close friend on what you plan to do so they will be able to check in on your progress. Knowing that someone is watching or monitoring your progress, you’ll be more conscious of your action plan and try to do them too.
We can’t help but compare our lives to others, especially in social media. When we someone who is living the life while you are stuck in a job that you don’t even like in the first place can make you feel depressed. Comparing yourself to others isn’t healthy. Focus on what you can achieve and be happy with your progress instead.
Don’t focus on weakness
We all have our weaknesses. But should you pay much attention to them? Not really. If you put all of your attention to your weaknesses, how then will you know what you are really good at? Being aware of your weaknesses but not making too much fuss about it can let you spend your energy on better things such as what your strengths are.
Without compassion, you won’t be able to get out of the rut that you are in. Having compassion lets you be more forgiving of yourself especially when you are not able to reach your desired goals or you made mistakes along the way.